One word…

Is it even possible to use just one word to describe someone ?,especially one with a strong personality,is full of character and is quite talented ? .

This is Sheyce’s 5th birthday week,she has been excited about it since early this year and as the date nears,she has all this ideas about the day and how she wants it to look like and am a bit confused because she wants a little of everything in one day. So i asked her to describe what she wants in one word;you know,does she want a fun party,themed party,crazy party,simple party? and she couldn’t settle for one;then i realized its quite hard to actually describe something using just one word.

As young as she is, i cant find a word to describe her, she is smart,very goofy,loves arts,has an interest in gymnastics(does the most dangerous stunts that leave us cringing),archery(a story for another day) and soccer ball(she calls football that),enjoys picking her own outfits and doing photo shoots which she mostly initiates and gladly directs and we all agree she is a natural ,an avid bookworm,interested in instruments and music recitals and orchestras,strikes very witty and engaging conversations that leave you questioning her age,enjoys helping out in house chores especially in the kitchen and i could go on and on about Sheyce,but you can already see why it is hard to use one word to describe her or even herself to describe the kind of party she wants for her birthday because of her diverse interests.

One word is something we have commonly been told to use especially to describe a person,a feeling ,an emotion ,an event and sometimes it can be accurate but most times it covers just a third of the feeling ,opinion or emotion about something or someone. Yes the one word saves times and tries to bring every little thing together to make it one but sometimes we  need to give some things the time they deserve.

So i wont try and find just one word to describe this little person or even describe how much she has grown in that one year using one word.She is every little and big beautiful thing and no one word would describe her perfect. But i would love to hear the one word you would use to describe Sheyce from the much or little i have shared about her…. 🙂

I will share a blog post every day this week because its a special week to us.

Have a blessed week ahead…

Pictures by Naphtali Foster

Love & Joy

 

 

Stop and smell the roses…

Often times we have been told to stop or pause and simply appreciate and enjoy where we are in life even if its not exactly where we hoped to be at that particular time,just appreciate being in the present and be grateful for it.

It is very easy to focus on what has not been,what if it had been like this or what of doing it like who and forget of the little strides you have made to get you where you are and how much there is to actually be soaked in and be grateful for.

We are in December, and as i reflect on how that year has been its very easy for me to focus on what i did not manage to accomplish that i had hoped and planned to but i choose to stop and smell the roses and so should you. It cant always be blissful,good and bad alternate and change is inevitable.

And even when life happens and throws you off balance ;stop,reflect,strategize,find your bearings and appreciate the little good that you may have ignored when life was happening and throwing you off balance before you start picking up your pace again.

So happy new month,take sometime to stop and smell the roses as we wind up the year 2018.

Photography by Naphtali Foster

Thank you for stopping by….

 

Love & Light …

Waceke.

 

 

The Bloom

Just like a flower blooms as it grows ,so does a person.

Most days i open the blog with all my words already figured out and ready to be typed away but once am halfway,that little voice in my head tells me ,”you know what,why not wait a little longer ?maybe its a little too soon to share? or how does it even inspire anyone or motivate anyone? Don’t you think you are getting a little too sentimental now? “,and i end up deleting,renaming the post and sharing what feels safer to share.

You see,i have been sharing Sheyce’s adventures and tales with you guys since she was a few months old on my social media platforms and i have loved writing and sharing my thoughts since i can remember but sometimes the little voice in my head wins and i end up not doing what the heart wants.

I had taken Sheyce off social media for various reasons but most of them were due to my own fears and insecurities and for awhile i may have not noticed Sheyce was in a bloom season; I knew she was blooming into this amazing little lady that i felt like i had not really interacted with until the other day when i asked her if she would like us to do a photo shoot and use her pictures to rekindle her presence on the blog and she was for idea.

She was very excited about the shoot ,she helped put together the outfits and once on shoot location she brought out her A game and we couldn’t help but wonder and marvel at how she bloomed into this gorgeous little lady amidst all the changes she underwent this year. Am proud of her,i see so much potential and talent in her and i cannot wait to see her bloom into all the amazing things God has placed in her.

Lets see the little lady bloom together ..:)

Thank you for your continued support,for always cheering us on and stopping by to read our posts.

Amazing pictures by Naphtali Foster .

Love & Joy …..

Sister Sister !!!

The last time you saw Sage,she was a few weeks old when Sheyce introduced her to you guys. Five months later the little one is so cute and chubby and is evidently Sheyce’s little best friend.

Sage is now Five months old,she is cute-chubby with the cutest rolls ever ,loves her milk so much but will not open her cute mouth for formulae. I recently started weaning her because my milk supply has been dwindling and the little miss was  beginning to become grumpy and i needed her to stay happy and she seems to really love her Nestle cerelac and freshly squeezed orange juice mixed with warm water two times a day meal combo. She also makes the cutest little yet so loud noises that Sheyce gladly joins in and also gives the cutest hearty smile ever. What am trying to say in all this nostalgic talk about Sage is am proud and grateful for the little-big milestones in her growth so far.

Sheyce on the other hand has really grown,she is such a little adult who can sometimes be naughty (which my mum insists is part of the growth but sometimes,okay most times,irks the “smurf” out of me ) ,very witty and loves to outsmart us,has this ability to strike some conversations which leave you questioning her age and has also become quite independent in a lot of things.

She is the best big sister ever to Sage,loves her so much and looks forward to playing with her as much as she can sometimes be curious of Sages reaction if she pokes her or makes her eat her hair or toes which Sage unfortunately gladly does,hahahahha. I love watching them enjoy each others company and raising them together.They will look out for each other as they grow and will definitely make the best friends ever.

They make sisterhood beautiful.

We tried to get Sage to look at the lens but she was too fascinated by the feel of grass on her cute tiny chubby feet to look up. But i loved the beautiful frozen moments of the little best friends,they are precious.

Photos by Naphtali Foster

Love & Light,

Waceke..

My birth story…

Three months its been yet it feels just like yesterday when Sage and i met. The glances,snuggles and cuddles still feel so surreal and i don’t think that will be changing anytime soon. We are officially 3 months today ..:-)

I birthed both my babies through Cesarean section. With Sheyce,it was an emergency CS due to a birth complication known as umbilical cord prolapse which simply means that the cord comes out first after the amniotic fluid raptures. It is said to be quite a rare condition which endangers the life of the baby hence calling for an emergency CS. Due to my first experience, i was a little nervous and anxious to meet Sage. With Sage i had the option of a normal delivery but to be on the safer side after looking into what ifs and what may if i went for a normal delivery we settled for another CS.

On 18.06.2018 its around 0100hrs and i was only going to feel settled if i checked in with my Obstetrician to make sure i was still scheduled for a CS the following day and also find out who was going to do my CS. So my OB logs into the system and guess whose name was nowhere to be found? Mine. For some reason the system either deleted my name or it just never picked it up when we keyed it in during my 34th week antenatal clinic; so we started to panic because there were no open slots until around mid July which was too far for me considering i did not want to go into labor whatsoever and i badly wanted my baby born on the 19th of June (i have a special love for those two numbers 19) so we really had to make the CS happen. Finally he managed to upload my name as an extra and he gave me the go-ahead to check myself into the hospital and hope my CS gets done the following day.

I dashed back home to do last minute packing and say bye to Sheyce before disappearing for a few days which was actually going to be my first time away from her for that long. She took it like a big girl and at 4pm i drove myself to the hospital with the whole backseat full of my/our things (am not a light packer,hahahaha,i always feel the need to take everything with me) to take me through the next couple of days i was going to be at the hospital.My good friend helped me get admitted and have my vitals taken and after sometime i was fully settled in my room and very hopeful that somehow i would have my CS done the following day. Two good friends joined me as i had my dinner and their company really helped me stay calm and stay hopeful that everything would be a success.

0500hrs on 19.06.2018 i was up,showered,prayed up and working on this blog post and feeling very ecstatic about the day already. I was so deep in my post when the nurse walked into my room to tell me to get ready because i was going to theatre in the next 5 minutes (see how God works),i did not get the time to panic or feel anxious as i was waaaay too excited to finally have a baby,hahahaha ,i honestly couldn’t wait for us to finally relate from the outside,i had had enough of the fatigue,recurring constipation and not to forget the molar tooth that got me staying in casualty for a few hours was way due for its extraction. I called my best friend Naphtali to let her know i was going in for my CS so she could come my way and wait for our little Sage and also let my mom & M know.

At 0900hrs i was in theatre,in the waiting room having my needles for the Intravenous fluids fixed on both arms by this chatty guy who got me destructed with his sense of humor. Most of my friends are medics and it was so calming to have them come check up on me as i waited to get into operating room.At 0930hrs i was in the operating room on the table having my spinal anesthesia inducted by this lady who was taking me through whatever it is she was doing that was actually the most uncomfortable and tingly-painful thing ever. During the induction you are made to bend in this very uncomfortable and weird position and you have to be as still as possible which is close to impossible because you cannot help but want to react to the tingly feel in your lower limbs and to me it was tingly painful.

I had requested they do the catheterization after the anesthesia had taken effect,in my head i imagined it was weirdly painful as much as they insisted the proper term to use is uncomfortable. At 0940hrs i was anesthesia ready, one of the guys in the team said a prayer and Dr Chen started the surgery at 0945hrs. No i did not feel her cut through my abdomen(i was doubting the anesthesia would work ,hahahaha,i was ready to scream my lungs out),there was this soothing gospel music playing in the background and i had two guys engage me in a conversation to keep me destructed and awake. At this point i was quite nervous and at some point i remember feeling a little nauseated and like i was suffocating but all my vitals were reading very normal all through.

At 0950hrs (actual time) i heard the cutest little yet loud cry and ” Congratulations Waceke,Its a baby girl,” by Dr Chen followed by the rest of  the team in the room. I will be lying if i say i cried because i was busy worrying about the stitching up and staying alive,hahahahaha,anything could go wrong you know. But i felt so calm and excited knowing that sage was out safe. The medic who received her showed her to me before she took her to the nursery for some quick check up and aaawwwww,she was so precious,she still is precious.She weighed 3.2kgs at birth.

At 1020hrs the surgery was done,by this time i was drowsy and very sleepy but i remember being taken to the recovery room. I was on and off but i eventually blacked out for a couple of hours. My mom and Naphtali were already keeping Sage company in the nursery and i on the other hand had some friends keep checking up on me until it was time to be taken to my room.

I cant remember the actual time i met Sage after getting to the room but it was around noon and she was so beautiful,and it was such an amazingly beautiful feeling to finally meet the little person who had been kicking and stretching in my tummy for 9months.For the next two days in hospital my main struggles and woes were lack of proper sleep and rest and lack of enough breast milk and not to forget the very painful nipple cracks. OUCH!

I  delivered at AIC Kijabe Hospital which is a level 6B hospital that offers really good medical care at affordable rates.I was born there and so were my girls. The  hospital is mostly known for its orthopedic services and affordable good maternity care. I was very well taken care of during my 3 days stay at the hospital and am so grateful for everyone who made sure that Sage and i were given the best medical care possible.Dr Chen and her team were amazing,the nurses who attended to me both in Barnett and maternity wards were very friendly and courteous and not to forget the pediatrician and lactating teams kindness and hospitality. A big thank you to my OB/GYN Felix Maita for being very patient with me ( am that patient with a gazillion questions) and for giving us amazing antenatal care at Kijabe Hospital.

Please note that antenatal clinics are very important. Make it your business to know and  understand how your baby is growing in your tummy for the 9months,the pros and cons of whichever birth method you are hoping for,cultivate a relationship with your obstetrician/gynecologist,have your NHIF and other medical insurance covers ready before delivery, Take your supplements religiously,start shopping early for the baby,have your hospital bags packed a few weeks before your EDD, Always pray for you and your baby and lastly keep all the positive energy close and be surrounded by people who are willing to give you all the moral support you will need.

I had hoped to share this waaay earlier but i had an episode or maybe a phase where i was feeling quite overwhelmed and probably demotivated to create or share any content. Its been 3 months now and am slowly getting the hang of being a mommy of two and learning how to balance the attention and time given to each one of them and also the time i give to myself to do what i like or even take care of me. Am so grateful to God ,my mom, my best friend and close friends and M for really being there for me and with me and mostly for actively raising my daughters with me.

You can ask me any questions about my CS and the healing process or what i packed in my hospital bag and just anything else about motherhood.

Thank you for stopping by,i will share more content now that am feeling rejuvenated and hopefully stay as consistent as possible.

Beautiful pictures by Naphtali Foster

Love & Joy ….

 

 

Nursing freedom…

I have a strong admiration for mothers who easily whip out a boob and latch their babies in public and not be bothered by the stares and glares that come with breastfeeding in public.

I have a lot of confidence and am rarely bothered by peoples opinions but its always been really hard for me to casually latch my baby in public. Am bothered by how awkward it makes everyone around you with your ‘girls’ all out and occasionally the nipple when the baby unexpectedly drops it.

Breastfeeding is beautiful and should be made to feel so by everyone because of all its nutritional benefits and the mother and child bonding moments.

A nursing mom will tell you how hard it is to latch the baby,hold her in position and at the same time hold onto the flannel sheet covering the “girls” as the baby feeds and as she grows it gets harder because she will barely sit still for a feed.Worry not though because i might have a hack that will give you nursing freedom.

Last month an amazing lady of the Sweetmamacollection gifted me with one of their very stylish yet functional breastfeeding covers and it has really made a big difference in nursing my baby in public. It is easy to put on,covers both the baby and the “girls” very well and even leaves a little space for mommy and baby to exchange those beautiful stares as they bond.I would recommend this cover to lactating moms because of the nursing freedom it gives you. Gets yours or get one for a new lactating mom and thank me later.

Lets all know the benefits of nourishing your baby and embrace the beauty and benefits that come with breastfeeding.

We turn 2 months on Sunday and as we do so,i will share my birth story on Monday,so look out for that blog post.

A happy (late) breastfeeding week to all lactating mothers,you are doing an amazing job!

Thank you for stopping by.

Photography by Naphtali Foster

Love & Joy ,

Waceke.

 

I love being a MOM…

When I was growing up, my Sunday school teacher was a doctor, Dr.Theuri, and for some reason I really admired what he did, so I decided that when am old enough, I will be just like him, a doctor and because I knew he worked with kids, pediatrician it was. I would spend most of my Sunday afternoons after Church at Bethany kids where he worked, and with my childhood best friend, Lyn, we would play with the kids and keenly observe Dr theuri check in on some of his patients. During our Bethany kids rounds i got to really love kids that after joining high school I would volunteer to teach little kids at the vocational bible study in Church.

Later high school would happen and as fate would have it, pediatrics was never going to happen considering neither sciences nor math liked me as much as I tried to like them and a bookworm was one more thing I was not and probably not going to be later in life. I was quick to accept my fate and went for my other love which was journalism. Being in a journalism club, going to almost all funkies as the reporter and being the one to write and read most weekly reports at the assembly grew my love for journalism, one that I did not know I had. Being in this club was one of my high school highlights and with me being an extrovert, it made me a little popular ( okay, maybe not just a little popular ) and it was quite obvious that I would make one of the top journalists in Kenya in the future (Can somebody type an Amen,hahaha).

Somewhere in all this I played the violin and I was convinced I wanted to be a violinist for the rest of the days,I was in one of the best music schools in Kenya,The Kenya conservatoire of music and my teacher, Miss Marta Lizak was one of the best violinists from Poland and then there was Mr Atigala  who saw all the potential in me and would really cheer me on during those conservatoire recitals ,God Bless your beautiful heart wherever you are. Unfortunately or fortunately life happened, I joined university, a little more of life happened ,my 18 year old self was curious about life and I wasn’t going to find  out so much about it In reading music, playing an instrument many had not heard of and definitely not In one of those recitals or concerts conservatoire always had going on. I put my violinist dreams on pause and chased my journalism dreams for a while as I explored the party scene.

As I chased my journalism dreams, I got amazing opportunities to experience the journalist world and I came to a realization that it was not as I had envisioned it and I was not ready for it. I slowed down on chasing dreams and explored the party scene which was all sorts of fun and crazy while it lasted but it’s also one of the things I would probably change if given the chance. None the less valuable life lessons and experiences came with that particular phase of my life.

As I was just winding up on the party life and trying to get into media, the least expected thing happened; I was expectant with Sheyce and it was one of the scariest and what felt like an eternity moment of my life. The better part of my pregnancy I was unhappy and in doubt if I really wanted to be a mom at that age but thank God my two friends,Njambi and Abby kept on reassuring me that it was  going to be okay and it sure did get better. Sheyce was born on the 12th of December 2013 and something changed, a lot actually changed and it’s like my purpose in life had been redefined.

Sheyce has been an interesting child to raise since the first day, there was a lot of guess work with her and countless trial and errors but thanks to her, am a better mom now and I wouldn’t trade motherhood for anything. Sage is here now and at least with her i know quite a lot about taking care of a baby.Being a mom is the only thing am sure I will not change, get bored of, put on pause, give up on or even rethink as I did with my career choices and other interests in life.

Am proud I went through all the odds to have my two girls, I was brave enough to choose life for them when I had other options and am determined to nurture them into the  very best versions of who God wants them to be.

Sometimes life can surprise us, never would I have envisioned myself as a mom of two at 25 and more so not married and not at the very climax of my career (whichever it would have been, a pediatrician, violinist or journalist). But I would not change my story because it has more meaning and purpose now. Through motherhood I find the motivation to do better, work harder, aim higher and want more in and out of life than I ever would have. I feel the need to be more intentional and deliberate in everything I do.

I won’t lie and say it’s all perfect and blissful as social media makes it look, it gets tough sometimes and quite challenging especially when one of my lil ones is having a lot of adjusting to do. It’s not been the easiest transitioning for sheyce and as a mom it may be tough to see her little heart get hurt and her emotions strained but it’s also a joy when I’m able to step in as both mom and dad  and make sure she doesn’t feel the void and doesn’t lack anything. She is so little to go through all the changes she has in the past couple of months but I believe everything is now settling in and hey,we all do what’s best for our kids and when they are old enough, they will understand why everything happened the way it did.

So guys, life doesn’t always happen the way we want it and we can’t beat ourselves up about it, we just have to find our bearings again when we are thrown off balance. Am still finding my bearings in other aspects of my life but for now, I want to focus on raising my little people, growing my career and financial stability as well as the relationships that really matter to me and my girls.

I love being a MOM… It’s the best job.

Thank you for stopping by.

Love & Joy

Sheyce Introduces Sage…

Just the other day Sheyce couldn’t wait to meet Sage and now she is eager to introduce her to everyone who cares to listen about her little sister. Sheyce is an extrovert and makes friends quite fast and she will gladly extend an invitation to a seemingly interested stranger to meet her baby sister. She is no doubt a very proud big sister.

We officially clock one month on 19.07.2018  and to say the least,am proud of us and grateful for every milestone.

I did not plan to say much for this post,i will let the beautiful candid moments captured by Naphtali Foster speak for themselves.

So Sheyce officially introduces her small sister Sage and i cannot wait to see their friendship blossom as they grow. Sheyce is overly protective of Sage and she is proud to be a big sister.

Thank you for growing our readership and engaging with us on social media,for the next 3 weeks we will post on Tuesdays and Thursdays ,so yeeeiy,look forward to some of the posts you guys requested us to do.

Love & Joy ..

 

 

What do you think?

This week i would like to hear from you guys,our readers on what you would want us to share with you on our platform. Initially when i started this blog,it was to document Sheyce’s adventures,travel ,a little bit of kids fashion & lifestyle but with the growth and changes that have taken place in our lives in the past one year i feel like i should share more than just what i had initially planned with the hope that my learning’s and experiences as a young mom of two beautiful girls will relate,resonate with you and probably inspire and motivate you.

My priorities have gravitated towards other growing aspects of my life that are more important and traveling is not at the top of my list but worry not guys,the Sheyce explores posts will be back soon,bigger and better by the end of the year if everything goes as hoped & planned (fingers crossed).

So in the meantime we will blog more on lifestyle,Mommy life and a little bit of kids fashion and whatever else you guys will suggest we blog about.Just leave us a comment down below or DM me your suggestions on Instagram.

I have a lot to share with you in the coming months but i still look forward to hearing what you think we should share as we take a small break from the travel posts.Also,which brands do you think we should work with ?

Thank you so much for reading our blog posts and really engaging with us on our social media platforms,our readership has really grown in the last one month and i can only imagine how it will grow in the next couple of months.

That’s all for todays’ post guys,thank you for stopping by…

Photography by Naphtali Foster

Love & Joy

Waceke …

She is growing up too fast !!

Am not just saying this because of the very recent changes in our lives that didn’t actually leave her a choice but to also grow up in that pace ; she has really grown and keeps growing way too fast am worried i may not catch on with her growth pace but am a mom, and every mom is a supermom and somehow manages to be there for everyone and with everyone especially her young ones.

She has been showing a lot of independence in everything she does,from what she wants to have for breakfast,her meal orders in the restaurants,what to wear when going out,how to do her homework and what to do after homework,when to and not to watch cartoon and even more impressive though a little worrying is knowing what to prescribe herself when she has a fever,a cough or a cold and i kid you not she knows all her medicine and which one treats what and for how many days she should take them.Just yesterday she overheard me having a phone conversation on how i feel like am not having enough fluids and the little person just told me, “u know u should hydrate like me,you take a lot of water and juice”.. hahahhaa. Yes she used the term hydrate and when i asked her where she got it from she told me that her doctor told her to stay hydrated with a lot of water to avoid bad breath when you have a cold,to say the least i was again,very impressed. But also,she badly wants to become a doctor when she grows up,so maybe this explains why she mimics doctors a lot (this is a blog post on its own).

What’s interesting is as she grows physically and mentally,she also grows emotionally and her intuitions and instincts are more aware and she can feel other peoples emotions and can easily pick up vibes and energy and even speak up. Her spiritual growth is also part of the growth,she is aware there is a God and knows He is the one who provides for us and protects us,she knows how to recite a few verses (whose chapters never match the said verse) and the cutest part is the little prayers she says which leave you in awe.

So with all the beautiful growth,lets just be honest here and also acknowledge the other little things that just scream out loud she is a toddler and a very naughty and whiny one sometimes. There are days she will fuss for no apparent reason,throw tantrums that you do not even understand or are patient with,have strong but honest opinions that can sometimes be seemingly out of hand,act clingy and emotional,overreact when mommy says no and act out in rebellious ways(like refuse to do homework because you said no to cartoon and her stubborn self will stand her ground),knowingly repeat a mistake and not be apologetic about it and sometimes just play stubborn to test my patience or see what’s the worst that can happen to her if she pokes my buttons a little further than last time which annoys and irritates me to the core.

With that said,i choose to focus on the beauty and that satisfying feeling of some type of achievement when i look at her and see this little strong willed,very witty and clever ,opinionated,strong personality,brave,talkative and beautiful little person whose attributes can only be in regards to my nurturing and parenting.

Am not a perfect parent especially when it comes to instilling discipline (i still struggle with the thought of spanking,we mostly dialogue and i tend to also use the power of the no nonsense tone with finality & the famous mommy eye,hahaha and i can honestly say am confident in her level of discipline even when she is out at her friends houses for play dates or in school ) and i would like to believe her morals and other values are also at a good place so far. There is no parenting manual but i believe every parent tries to do all they can to have a well mannered child whom they can pride themselves in.

Happy New Month guys,make July count,its still not too late to actualize some of those new year resolutions.

Thank you for stopping by.

Love & Joy … Waceke…

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